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OCD - 8 Simple Steps to Stop Compulsively Checking

OCD 8 Simple Steps to Stop Compulsively Checking

1. Reduce self doubt and Learn to Trust Yourself: OCD causes us to doubt our memory of events, "Did I actually lock the door?" Remind yourself of all the times that you actually did lock the door or turn the faucet off. Give a percentage of how many times you were right and OCD was wrong (ex. 90% ?). So tell yourself "This is just OCD and it's lying to me. I locked the door."

2. De-Personalize the Symptoms: You are not the OCD. You are not defective.

3. Identify ‘What If” Thoughts: You will expose OCD’s unhelpful “What If” thoughts and change them to more helpful “If Then” thoughts.

4. Create Powerful “If Then” Thoughts: “If Then” thoughts and statements set behavioral intentions or goals with the power to create feelings of certainty. This will help reduce self-doubt.

5. Devalue the Obsessive Thoughts: Instead of focusing on the fearful content of the thought (“What if I left the gas on?”), label it as just a thought that produces self-doubt and anxiety. “That’s just an obsession.”

6. Create a fear ladder: Start with a Weaker Compulsion and use Mental Rehearsal. Create a hierarchy of things that you check from those that cause the most anxiety to least anxiety. Then start with the one that causes the least amount of anxiety and mentally rehearse performing the task once and not returning. This technique is called "Imaginal Exposure."

7. Delay Checking and The Point of No Return: Actual real-time exposure can be gradual. Set a timer for 5 minutes and then check the door one time and state, “I checked the door and it is locked. No one will get in.” Soon there will be a place when turning back will be more difficult for you or unacceptable to do.

8. Choose not to Check: After successfully delaying the compulsion to check and identifying your point of no return, you are now ready to challenge yourself with not checking at all.


Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is classified as an anxiety disorder and is considered a chronic condition. Effective treatment, however, can significantly reduce the symptoms and produce a full remission of the disorder.

Obsessions are unwanted intrusive thoughts, images, or impulses/urges that cause intense feelings of shame, guilt, and doubt. This can trigger uncomfortable levels of anxiety, including panic attacks (aka anxiety attacks).

Compulsions are behaviors or rituals that are used to decrease the intensity of the obsessions and anxiety. Compulsive behaviors can also be said to neutralize the feeling of anxiety caused by the obsessive thoughts and beliefs. But the compulsive behavior only provides short-term relief from anxiety.

When the compulsive behavior reduces a person’s anxiety, it also confirms that the obsessive thoughts are dangerous or somehow true. Because anxiety is reduced, the compulsive behavior or ritual is reinforced and is more likely to be repeated again in the future. This becomes a vicious cycle.


Obsessive Thoughts, Images, or Impulses

Obsessive thoughts and images may not be about real or actual events. These intrusive thoughts are repetitive and focus more on getting it “right” and involve the fear of something that has not happened yet, such as “What if I didn’t lock the door, someone can just walk in my home and take everything.” Or more disturbing, “What if I can’t control myself while using a knife and I stab everyone in the room.” These are not fantasies or actual urges. These are unwanted fearful thoughts that can cause feelings of shame and self-doubt.

Types of Obsessions

Contamination Obsessions

  • Fear of Germs

  • Fear of Chemicals

  • Fear of Bodily Fluids (urine, saliva, and blood)

Losing Control Obsessions

  • Fear of acting on impulse and saying inappropriate things

  • Fear of acting on an impulse to harm oneself

  • Fear of acting on an impulse to harm others

  • Fear of violent thoughts and images

Harm Obsessions

  • Fear of inadvertently causing another person’s harm (by thinking it or not being careful enough)

  • Moral Obsessions

  • Unwanted Sexually Explicit or Perverse Thoughts and/or Images

  • Over-concern with right and wrong judgements

  • Over-concern with sin or angering God

Self-Doubt Obsessions

  • Fear of losing or forgetting important information when throwing something out

  • Fear of making mistakes or doing something wrong

Perfectionistic Obsessions

  • Over-concern about things being exact and precise

  • Over-concern with a need to know something or to remember something


Compulsive behaviors only temporarily reduce obsessive thoughts and the resulting anxiety. These behaviors attempt to get things rights, remove doubt, and to avoid some future calamity. Compulsions are time consuming and often interfere with important obligations such as getting to school or work on time.

Types of Compulsions


  • Staying away from people, places, and things that trigger obsessive thoughts, images, and/or impulses


  • Checking to make certain that you did not make a mistake

  • Checking that you did not harm others (calling them, calling hospitals)

  • Checking anything to remove feelings of doubt

  • Asking the same question over again or repetitively seeking reassurance

Cleaning and Washing

  • Cleaning and then re-cleaning

  • Excessively washing hands

  • Excessively showering (too many times or too long)

Mental Compulsions

  • Mentally counting to land on a specific number (ex. “Must be an even number”)

  • Praying or reciting


  • Repeating a task (ex. locking the door 3 times)

  • Repeating body movements (tapping, blinking)

Other Symptoms


Tics are sudden, uncontrolled, and repetitive movements or vocal sounds that are common with OCD, Tourette’s, and ADHD. There are 2 kinds of Tics, motor and vocal.

Motor Tics

Simple motor tics include head twitching, eye blinking, nose twitching, facial grimacing, and shoulder shrugging.

More complex motor tics include skipping, jumping, kicking, and smelling hands or other objects.

Vocal Tics

Simple vocal tics include throat clearing, coughing, grunting, barking, and hissing.

More complex vocal tics include yelling, making animal sounds, and repeating words and/or phrases.

Risk Factors

It is estimated that 1 out of 200 kids and teens, and 1 out of 100 adults can be diagnosed with OCD.

It can begin as early as 8 years of age and typically develops between the ages of 15 and 44. OCD is the 4th most common mental illness after phobias and depression.

Risk factors for developing OCD include a family history of OCD, trauma, and chronic stress.


To this date there is no definitive cause for OCD.

Most theories suggest a possible genetic link, changes in brain chemistry and functions, and environmental factors such as infections (PANDAS).

Unhelpful reactions to intrusive thoughts or obsessions and poor coping skills can contribute to the development of OCD.

Exaggerated and catastrophic beliefs about the importance of the obsessive thoughts triggers anxiety and anxious behavior.

PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal infections) is a type of OCD that develops in children after being exposed to infection. The body reacts to the infection, causing sudden and severe symptoms of OCD.


If you believe you could have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) it will be helpful and important to seek consultation with a mental health professional to first verify the diagnosis and then receive appropriate treatment.


Please consult with your primary care physician or a psychiatrist regarding the use of medication.

Anti-depressant medications are also effective at reducing symptoms of anxiety on a daily basis. This helps dampen the physical and emotional effects of anxiety and increases a person’s capacity to cope with stressful situations.

Commonly prescribed anti-depressants are:

  • Citalopram (Celexa)

  • Escitalopram (Lexapro)

  • Sertraline (Zoloft)

  • Paroxetine (Paxil)

  • Fluoxetine (Prozac)

Medication alone, however, is usually not enough for treating OCD. Certain medication can be more helpful when combined with psychotherapy.


Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a well-researched and highly effective form of talk therapy that focuses on learning more helpful ways of thinking and behaving. You learn different ways of responding to the symptoms of OCD and to your feelings of anxiety.

CBT helps challenge and change unhelpful beliefs that cause anxiety by restructuring automatic thinking and changing the way you behave in response to obsessive thoughts.

CBT sessions also provide education on the symptoms of OCD and how to manage the emotional and physical symptoms of anxiety.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

A form of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) known as Exposure and Response Prevention has been the most effective method for treating the symptoms of OCD.

With Exposure and Response Prevention, a mental health professional trained in CBT conducts a series of sessions to gradually expose the person to situations that trigger his or her obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors. Over time, the person learns to respond differently to these triggers, leading to a decrease in the frequency of compulsions and the intensity of obsessions.

As with most anxiety disorders, in order to learn how to overcome the symptoms of anxiety and to know that you can cope with anxiety and master the symptoms, you need to have the experience of successfully managing the symptoms. This often means exposing yourself to the thoughts, images, and impulses related to OCD and preventing from engaging in the compulsive behavior to reduce the anxiety.

Exposure and Response Prevention is an evidence-based treatment that interrupts the link between the anxiety produced by the obsessive thought and the compulsive behavior or ritual.

With the help of a mental health professional you are exposed to the obsession that triggers anxiety and then you are prevented from carrying out the compulsive ritual that usually decreases the anxiety.

For example some with an obsession about contamination, will touch something dirty. Their anxiety will increase and they will sit with the anxiety and not engage in their ritual of hand washing. The anxiety will reach a peak and then it will naturally decrease and return back to normal levels, all without engaging in the compulsive ritual.

This process will be repeated until touching the dirty object no longer produces anxiety.

The exposure is gradual at first and then the exposure becomes more prolonged overtime.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapies, such as ERP, can actually change the biochemistry in the brain that causes the symptoms of OCD.

Treating Intrusive Obsessional Thoughts without Compulsions

Most people experience intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts by themselves are not the problem. It’s the reaction you have to the intrusive thought that’s the problem. If you react with the belief that the thoughts are dangerous by trying to stop the thoughts or use avoidance, then you will experience anxiety and fear. Your reaction causes the anxiety, not the intrusive thoughts.

To conquer intrusive thoughts see 7 Steps for Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts.

8 Steps to Stop Compulsively Checking

1. Learning to Trust Yourself

The checking compulsion is a symptom of OCD and is related to self-doubt obsessions. You don’t trust your own thoughts, memory, and actions. OCD makes you question your reality.

Example: You fear that someone will enter your home or car and rip you off if you don’t lock your doors. Because of OCD you experience doubt and uncertainty about whether you actually locked the door. This uncertainty causes feelings of anxiety and more fear. So you go back and check the lock again to be certain and to reduce the anxiety. Then you walk away, but wait, that pesky OCD says, "Maybe you unknowingly unlocked the door instead of locking it." So you decide “I better check again.”

This self-doubt and lack of trust in yourself can cause you to feel helpless and defective.

Remind yourself of all the times that you actually did lock the door or turn the faucet off.

Give a percentage of how many times you were right and OCD was wrong (ex. 90% ?).

So tell yourself "This is just OCD and it's lying to me. I locked the door."

2. De-Personalize the Symptoms o